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Words of Wisdom from the Former Jesus Lovebirds
옥진우 & 유지혜 (졸업생)
We are former graduates of UIUC who’ve been a part of the Jesus Love community from 2013 through 2017. It seems like just yesterday when we were walking down the quad, chilling at the Union and attending church events, but fast forward three years and here we are now living happily as a married couple!
To tell you a bit about ourselves, we met at church when we were sophomores in high school. We attended different schools so got to slowly know each other at youth group by meeting once, maybe twice a week. We started dating and applying to the same colleges during our senior year and ended up attending UIUC in 2013. We dated all throughout college and continued our relationship by both finding jobs in our hometown of Chicago (Jinwoo works in finance and Ji Hyae works in data consulting). Shortly thereafter, we got engaged in 2018 and got married this past July in 2019.
Thinking back to college and how our lives have changed since then, we’d say focus on these three things to be able to ROK whatever you do:
1. RELATIONSHIPS – We can’t stress enough how important relationships you form during your college years will be. Of course studying hard, getting a good GPA and landing a solid job is important, but nothing is as precious as the bonds you form in college, as some of those people will ultimately become your lifelong friends. And aside from simply friendships, actively look for partners within church because your future wife or husband may just be hiding somewhere in that mix! But also be careful in who you date because people talk and talk travels fast. You have one – maybe two – chances at dating people at church before you become that guy or girl to avoid for being the thirsty church kid.
2. OPEN MINDEDNESS – Always, always have an open mind during and even after college, but especially during! Don’t be quick to judge, whether that be a major, activity or person, until you’ve truly given it a chance and know for sure that it’s not for you. We both changed or added majors while in school and also became friends with many people we didn’t expect to be as close with when we met them early on. We had 18 people (nine groomsmen and nine bridesmaids) stand at our wedding, ten of whom were from UIUC and six of whom we didn’t expect we’d even end up liking.
3. KINDNESS – This partly goes back to having an open mind, but it’s the universal golden rule that really seems to work – treat others the way you want to be treated. Be kind to people you don’t know and even kinder to the ones you do. Though people may not remember the things you did or didn’t do for them, they’ll never forget how you made them feel. Being kind to others will pay dividends and is ultimately loving yourself.
We hope this was a good read, and even though we may not know many of you, our hearts are always with Jesus Love! If we can do anything to help, please feel free to reach out. (IG – Joakerboss, Matae2820)